Columnists and Letters

Read op-eds, thoughts, reflections, and opinions on LGBT subjects and life in general.

Pucker Up: This is How One Gay Man Lost Control of His Fetish

His childhood preoccupation with lip balm has only grown since grade school. Now Wade wonders whether it will land him on My Strange Addiction. My obsession with lip balm began in...

Ask Daddy: Is This is Why Gay Guys Are Ghosting Me?

Ask Daddy is an advice column for LGBTQ readers with questions relating to sexuality, morality, coming out or navigating relationships. And always remember, the best advice this...

This Is What Happened When a Young Gay Man Met Strangers on an Italian Train

Before I got on that Italian train, it was the summer of 1999, and I was a 20-year old studying in Italy. The two dozen students in the program included familiar faces from my...

This Is How I Became a Man Who Wears Brooches

I’ve heard them called pins, pendants, even baubles. But generally I go with the term “brooches.” There was a time when I would have thought wearing them was the epitome of...

This Is What It’s Like When Roommates Have a Design War

Interior design can be a wonderful way to let people know who you are; it can also be a way your partner can keep you invisible. Design as Warfare I recall learning a lesson early...

This Is How It Really Feels to Struggle with Your Dad’s Dementia

Wade takes his dad for a visit to the past but discovers that the same scenes that bring his father comfort can also be haunting reminders. Memory Lane Each time I visited my...

This Is What It’s Really Like To Live In A Popular Gay Vacation Destination

From living in two popular destinations, Wade learns to loathe tourists. Then one of them finally reminds him why he moved there in the first place. Watch Out! If I ever end up on...

This Is a List of the Crazy Things I Did to Lose Weight

After endless ups and downs on a weight-loss roller coaster, Kevin learns what works, what doesn’t and what he was craving all along. I Love Food The quickest glance in my...

This Is What It’s Like When a Gay Man is Mistaken for a Famous Actress

After Wade gets mistaken for an unexpected celebrity, he reflects on how his evolving relationship with fashion allowed him to take it in stride. Dude Looks Like a Lady I was...

This Is What Happens When You Try to Stop Binge Watching

After realizing that binge-watching television is leaving them exhausted, Wade and Gary attempt to unplug — to mixed results. Just One More? “Just one more?” Gary asked...

This Is What It’s Like To Be a Gay Couple Constantly on the Road Together

When the world is your office and your spouse is your co-worker, it can be a challenge to finding balance. But it can also lead to some very special moments. Pull Over!...

This Is What It’s Like When You Have to Cancel Your Garden Party

In a city with a rich culture of urban gardening, Sebastian and his fiancé want to celebrate the work they put into their bit of earth. Unfortunately it RSVPs to their party as...