Columnists and Letters

Read op-eds, thoughts, reflections, and opinions on LGBT subjects and life in general.

This Is How to Get Used to Your Gay Boyfriend’s Big Family

I wondered if I was just not equipped to deal with my boyfriend’s big family – until I realized that I wasn’t the only one trying to deal. Is It Too Early in the...

This Is What It Feels Like When Your High School Crush Might Be Gay

He was my secret high school crush. She was the teacher we both turned to for advice. And in one fateful conversation, I learned what it feels like when your high school crush...

This is What Happened When a Gay Baby Was Kidnapped From a Fortune Teller’s House on Halloween

My grandparents adopted me from my biological mother – their second daughter Lisa. Lisa was diagnosed as schizophrenic at an early age. This haunted my father his entire...

This Is What It’s Like When a Gay Couple Makes Halloween Dreams Come True

I grew up learning to associate Halloween with disappointment. Little did I know, the glittering costumes I’d dreamed of were just a few decades away. Pushing the Limits...

These Are 10 Things You Learn From Being a Gay Stripper

You’ve seen many a hot go-go boy dance, spin and entertain at your favorite night club or bar. But, have you ever wondered what it takes to be one? Have you ever thought –...

Pucker Up: This is How One Gay Man Lost Control of His Fetish

His childhood preoccupation with lip balm has only grown since grade school. Now Wade wonders whether it will land him on My Strange Addiction. My obsession with lip balm began in...

Ask Daddy: Is This is Why Gay Guys Are Ghosting Me?

Ask Daddy is an advice column for LGBTQ readers with questions relating to sexuality, morality, coming out or navigating relationships. And always remember, the best advice this...

This Is What Happened When a Young Gay Man Met Strangers on an Italian Train

Before I got on that Italian train, it was the summer of 1999, and I was a 20-year old studying in Italy. The two dozen students in the program included familiar faces from my...

This Is How I Became a Man Who Wears Brooches

I’ve heard them called pins, pendants, even baubles. But generally I go with the term “brooches.” There was a time when I would have thought wearing them was the epitome of...

This Is What It’s Like When Roommates Have a Design War

Interior design can be a wonderful way to let people know who you are; it can also be a way your partner can keep you invisible. Design as Warfare I recall learning a lesson early...

This Is How It Really Feels to Struggle with Your Dad’s Dementia

Wade takes his dad for a visit to the past but discovers that the same scenes that bring his father comfort can also be haunting reminders. Memory Lane Each time I visited my...

This Is What It’s Really Like To Live In A Popular Gay Vacation Destination

From living in two popular destinations, Wade learns to loathe tourists. Then one of them finally reminds him why he moved there in the first place. Watch Out! If I ever end up on...