Columnists and Letters

Read op-eds, thoughts, reflections, and opinions on LGBT subjects and life in general.

This Is What It’s Like When Roommates Have a Design War

Interior design can be a wonderful way to let people know who you are; it can also be a way your partner can keep you invisible. Design as Warfare I recall learning a lesson early...

This Is How It Really Feels to Struggle with Your Dad’s Dementia

Wade takes his dad for a visit to the past but discovers that the same scenes that bring his father comfort can also be haunting reminders. Memory Lane Each time I visited my...

This Is What It’s Really Like To Live In A Popular Gay Vacation Destination

From living in two popular destinations, Wade learns to loathe tourists. Then one of them finally reminds him why he moved there in the first place. Watch Out! If I ever end up on...

This Is a List of the Crazy Things I Did to Lose Weight

After endless ups and downs on a weight-loss roller coaster, Kevin learns what works, what doesn’t and what he was craving all along. I Love Food The quickest glance in my...

This Is What It’s Like When a Gay Man is Mistaken for a Famous Actress

After Wade gets mistaken for an unexpected celebrity, he reflects on how his evolving relationship with fashion allowed him to take it in stride. Dude Looks Like a Lady I was...

This Is What Happens When You Try to Stop Binge Watching

After realizing that binge-watching television is leaving them exhausted, Wade and Gary attempt to unplug — to mixed results. Just One More? “Just one more?” Gary asked...

This Is What It’s Like To Be a Gay Couple Constantly on the Road Together

When the world is your office and your spouse is your co-worker, it can be a challenge to finding balance. But it can also lead to some very special moments. Pull Over!...

This Is What It’s Like When You Have to Cancel Your Garden Party

In a city with a rich culture of urban gardening, Sebastian and his fiancé want to celebrate the work they put into their bit of earth. Unfortunately it RSVPs to their party as...

This Is What It’s Like When You Can’t Stop Losing Weight After a Breakup

I parlayed a painful relationship split into increasingly extreme weight loss – until I discovered how low I could go. Feeling Full A few years ago, I went through one of...

This Is What It’s Like When Your Mom Has a Heart Attack in the Middle of Your Martini

You know what’s not a great time to receive a call that your homophobic Mom has been taken to the hospital? Just as a waitress is delicately setting down a full-to-brimming...

This Is What It’s Like to Be Adopted by Your Grandparents

I remember the first time I learned I was getting old. It was on the occasion of my tenth birthday. That year, my cousin Martin and his wife Margie took me to Sea Isle City in New...

This Is How They Decide What Ends Up on Your Book Covers

Wade offers a look inside the world of book design, including some very good reasons why you should not judge a book by its cover. What I Imagined Along the staircase to my...