Columnists and Letters

Read op-eds, thoughts, reflections, and opinions on LGBT subjects and life in general.

This Is What It’s Like When You Have to Cancel Your Garden Party

In a city with a rich culture of urban gardening, Sebastian and his fiancé want to celebrate the work they put into their bit of earth. Unfortunately it RSVPs to their party as...

This Is What It’s Like When You Can’t Stop Losing Weight After a Breakup

I parlayed a painful relationship split into increasingly extreme weight loss – until I discovered how low I could go. Feeling Full A few years ago, I went through one of...

This Is What It’s Like When Your Mom Has a Heart Attack in the Middle of Your Martini

You know what’s not a great time to receive a call that your homophobic Mom has been taken to the hospital? Just as a waitress is delicately setting down a full-to-brimming...

This Is What It’s Like to Be Adopted by Your Grandparents

I remember the first time I learned I was getting old. It was on the occasion of my tenth birthday. That year, my cousin Martin and his wife Margie took me to Sea Isle City in New...

This Is How They Decide What Ends Up on Your Book Covers

Wade offers a look inside the world of book design, including some very good reasons why you should not judge a book by its cover. What I Imagined Along the staircase to my...

This Is How a Happy Gay Couple Shares Breakfast with Meds

Sebastian recounts the joy of sharing breakfast with his fiancé, and how part of that morning ritual makes them part of a new generation of happy, healthy, loving gay couples....

What It Was Like to Be Queer Genius Michelangelo

I’ve been lucky to meet several notable LGBTQ celebrities in my life. Many of them I was interviewing for a publication like this one. However, I think my first such...

This Is What It’s Like Waiting Years for Your Boyfriend to Propose

Justin and I had only been dating a year when same-sex marriage was legalized in NY. And from that point on, we’d be spending a fair amount of time wrapping our heads around the...

This Is How Straight Girls Can Ruin Your Favorite Gay Bars

As Kevin watches a gaggle of gals turn a leather bar into ladies’ night, he can’t help but wonder: Have we taken assimilation a little too far? What It Means to Be Gay Today...

What It’s Like to Feel Insane On the Way to Your Big Gay Wedding

I was scheduled to marry Justin 3,110 days after the night we met. This was 2,736 days after same-sex marriage was made legal in New York State; 1,230 days after he proposed, and...

This Is How a Dog Trained Its Owner to Write a Book

Wade didn’t think he could handle having a dog or writing a book — until he learned to start asking, “Why not?” Which One Is the Mess? One New Year’s Eve, I placed a...

This Feisty, Gay 85-Year-Old Will Make You Laugh Out Loud

David looks at a life through the eyes of his outspoken, gay, octogenarian neighbor, who is still very much alive and loving. “You Love Me?!” My 85-year-old neighbor,...