Columnists and Letters

Read op-eds, thoughts, reflections, and opinions on LGBT subjects and life in general.

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What It’s Like to Feel Insane On the Way to Your Big Gay Wedding

I was scheduled to marry Justin 3,110 days after the night we met. This was 2,736 days after same-sex marriage was made legal in New York State; 1,230 days after he proposed, and...

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This Is How a Dog Trained Its Owner to Write a Book

Wade didn’t think he could handle having a dog or writing a book — until he learned to start asking, “Why not?” Which One Is the Mess? One New Year’s Eve, I placed a...

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This Feisty, Gay 85-Year-Old Will Make You Laugh Out Loud

David looks at a life through the eyes of his outspoken, gay, octogenarian neighbor, who is still very much alive and loving. “You Love Me?!” My 85-year-old neighbor,...

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This Is How a Gay Man Apologizes to the Straight Women Who Loved Him

Wade regretted lying to the women who helped him pass as straight over the years — until one of them asked for help in return. The Other Kind of Beard A “beard” is...

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This Is How Splurging on a New Hair Salon Ended In Disaster

Wade decides it’s about time he splurged on a visit to an upscale salon, and he certainly ends up paying the price. Hair Before I spent a majority of my Ozarks childhood...

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How Do You Tell Someone the Truth If It Might Destroy Them?

When he can’t bring himself to tell a fellow comedian to call it quits, Eddie learns that kindness and love aren’t always the same. I’d respected Bob Smith long before our...

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This Is How I Braved the Louvre to See the Lady with the Smile

Wade was close to making his lifelong dream of seeing the Mona Lisa come true until something, quite literally, got in the way. I’ve dreamed of visiting Paris ever since I was a...

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This Is How Careening Down a Mountain Made Me Appreciate Gay Music

I headed to to Montreal and ended up on a heart-stopping motorbike ride that left me with a new understanding of gay music. Different Kinds of “Gay” Gay can be a...

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This Is How I Ended Up Photographing My Friend Naked in a Tub of Fruit

Theater can make you do strange things – like convincing one of your best friends to pose nude with fruit. The Greatest Hits of a Band That Never Existed In college and the...

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This Is How One Fabulous Drag Queen Found a Unique Way to Celebrate Pride

LGBTQ people often think of Pride as a place: a parade, a festival, a party. And for some of us, that energy can eventually become overwhelming. But, even as she attempted to...

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Love Or Hate? What’s Really Deep in the Heart of Texas?

Every year, I try to get back to Texas, and my New York friends never understand why. And so I explain again: my politics are strictly North Eastern liberal. But my manners,...

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A Gay Man’s first Trip to Provincetown Opens His Eyes

Wade remembers his first visit to Provincetown, where a chance invitation allowed him to glimpse a future he hadn’t begun to imagine. Good Morning, Provincetown! My first-ever...

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