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Confessions of a Gay Man Who Gives Terrible Holiday Gifts

My husband, Gary, may be the best Christmas gift giver since Santa Claus, and it’s quite possible he genetically inherited this quality from his mother, who is a virtual Mrs....

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A Gay Man Remembers Taking Risks to Appear “Straight”

As I approach my 40th birthday as an out-and-proud gay man, I find myself thinking about the years I spent as a closeted teen, including some of the ridiculous things I did to fit...

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How I Accidentally Slept with a Gay Catholic Priest

Can you outrun your childhood? Possibly not, I realized after a brief tryst in Louisville. There on a press trip, I bumped into the cutest guy I’d seen in quite some time....

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How to Be a Gay Daddy 101: Know Yourself, What You Seek . . . and Who’s Looking for You

Being a gay Daddy has its perks, but also presents a set of challenges that make it perfect for some and undoable for others. So let’s talk about the assumptions, the...

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He Found Me 20 Years After We Met in Gay Youth Group

Thanksgiving makes me think of the people we gain and lose along the way, in particular a long lost-friend from a gay youth group who promised to keep in touch and did – two...

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How My High School Reunion Reacted to Me Coming Out

After being outed by my girlfriend and insulted my classmates and, I still dared to attend my high school reunion – and was surprised by their reaction when I came out as...

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One Woman Wonders: Can You Be Muslim and Lesbian at the Same Time?

My name is Nzee, I am from Pakistan living here in United States for the past four years. I was born Muslim and I’m proud to call myself Muslim. But I can’t deny the fact...

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Did I Understand Consent as a Young Gay Man?

In light of recent high-profile allegations of sexual abuse, I can’t help but wonder if I even understood consent when I was a young gay man living in 1990s New York City. You...

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Breaking Down HIV Stigma, One Test at a Time

I will never forget the day one of my closest friends sat me down and confided in me that he had contracted HIV. As a young gay man of color, HIV was on my radar, but I never...

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Love the Sinner, Hate the Sin

During one of my religion classes, our teacher played a video for us in which a man explained the sacredness of marriage. He went on to elaborate that heterosexual marriages are...

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Saying Farewell to Summer at a Gay Nude Beach

As fall approaches, I can’t help but marvel at the sights, sounds and stories I experienced this summer at a local, clothing-optional stretch of the water’s edge that the...

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Why I Chose to Make a Feature Documentary on the Life and Times of Gay Composer Gerald Busby

One day, while thumbing through The New York Times, my eye caught the Neediest Cases Section and I saw composer Gerald Busby’s photograph with the headline: “Back From...

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