Columnists and Letters

Read op-eds, thoughts, reflections, and opinions on LGBT subjects and life in general.

Saying Farewell to Summer at a Gay Nude Beach

As fall approaches, I can’t help but marvel at the sights, sounds and stories I experienced this summer at a local, clothing-optional stretch of the water’s edge that the...

Dear Diary: It Was the Best of Hair, It Was the Worst of Hair

Wade decides it’s about time he splurged on a visit to an upscale salon, and he certainly ends up paying the price. I spent a majority of my Ozarks childhood accompanying my...

Lend An Ear: Why Editor Paul Hagen is Only Half Listening to You

The summer after kindergarten, I was admitted to the hospital. Something was wrong with my left ear, and the doctors were having difficulty identifying a remedy. They hoped a...

I Had a Horrible Gay Break-Up and Couldn’t Stop Losing Weight

I parlayed a painful relationship split into increasingly extreme weight loss – until I discovered how low I could go. A few years ago, I went through one of the worst...

Can You Throw a Big Gay Dinner Party Without the Dinner?

I decided to shake up my party-throwing routine, and the result was a culinary catastrophe. I love the feeling of being a host, but perhaps it’s easier to love when you...

End of Life Care: When You’re Gay Without Kids, Who Will Take Care of You?

In the course of helping their own parents face the slings and arrows of age, Wade and Gary make alternative plans for their own twilight years. It is the call no one hopes to...

The Greatest Love of All Is Not Easy to Achieve

With all due respect to Whitney Houston, Kevin discovers that learning to love himself involves getting past experiences that made him feel less than proud. “Hooray, now my...

Trip Down Memory Lane

Wade takes his dad for a visit to the past but discovers that the same scenes that bring his father comfort can also be haunting reminders of what was. Each time I visit my...

Discovering Your Identity: The Trek from Straight Boyfriend to Gay Daddy

Kevin traces his personal evolution from being an altar boy fantasizing about Beatles all the way to embracing being a daddy — and everything in between. looking back, I’ve...

DIARY: Hurting My Pride?

When a book event ends up overflowing with fans of his partner Gary, Wade is left wondering: How come no one showed up to root for him? BY WADE ROUSE On a recent book tour, I...

Editor Paul Hagen Wonders: Does the Cologne Make the Man?

The year is 1999. I’m at home in New Jersey after my freshman year of college, and having gotten a taste of the freedom and excitement of living in NYC, I’m climbing the...

Editor Paul Hagen Asks: Does Anyone Ever Outgrow Childhood — Or its Artifacts?

Looking at the walls of my home today — generously sprinkled with framed photos, prints, posters and the like — it’s strange to remember a time when I didn’t own a single...