Kevin learns that, though interior design can be a wonderful way to let people know who you are, it can also be a way others try to keep you from doing so.
I recall learning early on — from the kids who invited me home after school to trade comics, assemble models and watch TV — about the human impulse to introduce new people to your world (and thereby learn about each other) by showing off “Our Stuff.” As kids, It was if to say, “Look around. This is who I am. See anything we have in common?”
In college, that process became an essential part of dorm life. Sports memorabilia, religious iconography, music, art, books and movies: collectively they telegraph something of our identity. A total stranger only had to walk into my room, thumb through my burgeoning music collection or glance at the framed posters on my wall to know instantly who they were dealing with.
But there was one resident in particular who introduced me to the concept of design as a form of warfare. Herbie was a stoner whose first roommate mysteriously disappeared halfway through the fall semester, which perfectly suited his hermitic demeanor. But in the spring, university housing dropped another roomie on him — a babyfaced Jonny Quest doppelgänger named Tony.
Tony seemed unfazed by the indignities that drove Herbie’s first roommate away; the late-night phone calls, the unmistakable stench of pot. One night, Herbie began his siege by painting the walls of their room black and the ceiling red, then letting the excess paint drip down the walls like blood. He followed that up with posting Playgirl centerfolds on the wall and leaving ungodly refuse in their shared sink.
Prince of Dartness
The last time I saw them together one afternoon, Tony came tearing around a corner of the dorm hallway and blazed past me. I took another step or two, and from around that corner, Herbie stepped out and took a stance, aiming a kiddie suction-tip dart gun at his roomie. Herbie had a malevolent gleam in his eye as he took aim — and that’s when I saw that Herbie had replaced the suction tips with needles he’d crudely taped in their place. He pulled the trigger and caught Tony squarely in the back. I recall a yelp as the shot felled Tony like some animal brought to ground on safari. Soon after, critical mass sent Tony packing and Herbie was once again master of his own domain.
Whatever his methods, Herbie had a point about marking one’s territory. When I partnered, I found myself giving up more and more of my tastes to please them. My first partner David and I bought a custom couch and chair we’d seen on The Real World. He chose the fabric — off-white with subtle vertical stripes. I chose their infinitely more colorful covers — bold red for the couch and blue for the chair with cactuses and cowboys and horses replicated from the inside of Boy Scout sleeping bags. As we drifted apart, David got a dog who made several unwelcome contributions to our once-prized pieces. When we parted, I left the dog and the furniture in his care.
Ray, my next partner (and now ex-husband), was enthralled with Asian minimalism — which meant I had to say goodbye to my folk-arty Santa Fe-style dining room table and chair set. I was permitted wall art — a gold record for my Otis Redding album essay, a blown-up frame of film with the American Indian head test pattern (from when television actually used to sign off overnight), a 2008 Obama poster and a cartoon by a friend who’d won a Pulitzer.
Our condo boasted a view of the Seattle skyline and Space Needle not unlike Frasier’s TV home. A stark a leather-and-chrome couch and chair set sat at one end of our living room, offset by a dining table of mahogany and smoked glass. I felt like I was living at a law firm.
An Unwitting Game of Peek-A-Boo
His favorite features were the floor-to ceiling windows, which had to be kept blinds-up all day, every day. I quickly learned that in such an environment, you cannot stumble out naked to make your coffee without posing for a neighbor with a telescope.
I tried to push back against his austerity by suggesting an element of fancy: “How about a restored barber chair from the Baby Boom era?” I asked. I’d loved them since my first haircut and thought the novelty would really liven the place up. (And candidly, it plays into the Captain Kirk fetish I’ve had since childhood that’s only gotten worse since Chris Pine took over the role.) He nixed the idea, and as a consolation prize let me design a desk that could be closed into a cube. Very Asian minimalist. I assume that after I left, he used it for kindling.
Eventually I decided to stop depending on anyone else to shape my world. I began to accept how little of the universe any of us actually controls, as well as asserting my will over what sits behind my front door.
Now I’m in a tiny NYC apartment that leaves little room for dramatic decor decisions. I did recently repurpose a set of carefully mismatched ‘40s and ‘50s luggage into a chest of drawers, and the shelves remain crammed with books and movies that have brought me a lifetime of delight. These days, a stranger could walk into my place and once again have an inkling of who I am just from looking at my stuff. And maybe someday I’ll figure out how to squeeze in that vintage barber’s chair.
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Last modified: July 27, 2017