This Is Why You’ll Love the Baltic Beauty of LGBT-Friendly Estonia

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It’s a country where a love of music meets a love of freedom, and it’s inviting you to join its people in celebrating a very big birthday.

Twilight in Estonia

At twilight, one evening in Estonia, we were walking across an expansive lawn that rolled down to the Baltic Sea. Our host suddenly stopped. Hushing us with a finger to his lips, he raised his head so that we, too, would hear the bird song. “A nightingale,” said Martin Breuer, owner of Pädaste Manor, a 24-room luxury resort and spa on Muhu Island. “It sounds like a chorus, but it’s actually only one bird. Not much to look at, but what a singer!”

Enchanted, we stood and listened to the whistles, trills and gurgles of this Estonian nightingale. In hindsight, it was an appropriate accompaniment for a country that achieved independence from authoritarianism via a “Singing Revolution.”

Tucked into a corner of Northern Europe, Estonia is flanked by the Baltic Sea and the Gulf of Finland. The country contains more than 2,200 islands and a dramatic coastline of limestone cliffs. Its heavily-forested mainland contains over 1,400 lakes and — in extra-terrestrial news — clusters of meteorite craters. With its numerous fens and bogs, Estonia evokes images from Norse mythology where supernatural nymphs and elves frolic in the woodlands. In short, there’s much that’s magical about Estonia.

Evergreens and Estonian sky

Photo by Johannes Arro for Visit Estonia

Estonian History 101

The history of this country of 1.3 million people, one of the smallest members of the EU, has been something of a centuries-long chess match. Various invaders have used Estonia as a pawn on their strategic chessboards. Over the course of a millennium, Germany, Denmark, Sweden and Russia each annexed Estonia.

Despite a declaration of independence in 1918, Estonia was first occupied by the Soviet Union and then by Nazi Germany. The Soviets more officially annexed it in 1944. However in 1988, spontaneous singing demonstrations broke out at various music festivals around the nation — eventually growing to nearly 300,000 citizens. After four years of protests and the singing of once-forbidden patriotic songs and hymns, Estonians regained their independence in 1991. This will be one of many historical events celebrated during the nation’s hundredth birthday throughout 2018.

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The Island Where Time Rests

Accessible only by ferry, Muhu Island is where “time rests.” This is according to the locals who cherish their maritime heritage. Their bucolic landscape is dotted with charming fishing villages, thatched cottages and windmills.

A member of Small Luxury Hotels of the World (SLH), Pädaste Manor dates to the 16th century with a pedigree that includes hosting royals, heiresses, and the Imperial Hunting Master at the court of Czar Nicholas II. (It was also once occupied by the Soviet military. Later it became a fish warehouse and – later still – a geriatric nursing home). Pädaste’s renaissance commenced in 1996 with a complete restoration of the 70-acre estate and its landscaped park and apple orchards. Today the stately manor is Estonia’s only five-star hotel outside Tallinn.

man on boat

Photo by Sven Zacek for Visit Estonia

Pädaste Shop Boys

Take in the view that inspired the Pet Shop Boys to write a song while in residence. Sip a champagne cocktail at Pädaste Yacht Club overlooking Pädaste Bay. Juniper trees and wild orchids dot the shoreline where sea eagles nest. In the distance, “Love Island” beckons, calling to romantics across the globe.

Talented chef Stefan Berwanger and his chef-pâtissier Achim Braitsch helm the Michelin-worthy kitchen at Alexander restaurant. Their Nordic Islands seven-course tasting menu highlights the indigenous bounty from Muhu purveyors. Dinners at the 14-seat Chef’s Table are most definitely a convivial introduction to Estonian gastronomy and hospitality.

For the morning after, treatments at Pädaste Spa are based on ancient Muhu traditions. The staff prepares emollients daily from the surrounding herb gardens. Housed in the estate’s former dairy, the spa includes a wood-fired sauna complete with birch branches for light flagellation (to stimulate circulation). There’s also a Siberian cold tub on the terrace.

As owner Breuer attests, “Muhu is about slow travel,” and most likely you’ll want to savor every moment at this remarkable estate.

Before heading on to Saaremaa, Muhu’s larger sister island, consider a respite at Koost (the Estonian word for “spoon”). There, a bakery and brewery complement a restaurant renowned for its fresh produce and seafood with homemade dairy products.

Famous for its 13th-century castle and moat, the isle of Saaremaa offers waterside villages, windswept beaches and a vista festooned with windmills. Also of interest is the 4,000-year-old meteorite crater field known as Kaali. It’s the largest in Europe and has been an ongoing influence in Estonian mythology.

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The Nordic Riviera

Estonians cherish their centuries-old spa traditions nearly as much as their ubiquitous and delicious dark rye bread. (It’s baked daily and served with fresh butter — diet be damned.) Nowhere on the mainland is there a more beloved health resort than the city of Pärnu, a seaside vacation capital since the Russian aristocracy began taking mud baths there in the early 19th century.

Männikjärve Bog

Männikjärve Bog — Photo by Pädaste Manor

Now known as Hedon Spa & Hotel, the original mud baths date to 1838 and are currently housed in a neoclassical building. Nestled along the white sands of Pärnu beach, the spa at Hedon celebrates ancient Roman bathing culture with cleansing rituals that include a Silent Spa, various saunas, a foot bath, a Dead Sea saltwater pool and a sun bath that generates the kind of rays you’d expect to find on the shores of Bali, Mauritius or Miami.

The Sound of Music

Hedon’s sleek hotel addition opened in summer 2014 with waterfront rooms and private balconies that face Pärnu’s broad beach and coastal lagoons. Alongside the birds and amphibians protected inside Pärnu’s nature preserve, the beach hosts thousands of EDM enthusiasts for the annual Weekend Festival, one of the world’s largest electronic dance music events. Equally acclaimed is Pärnu Music Festival, a weeklong summer series of classical music hosted by the Estonian Festival Orchestra.

Given the historical import of their “singing revolution,” it’s appropriate that Estonians gather for numerous musical events. This includes Jazzkaar, the largest jazz festival in the Baltics. There are folk music fests, musical walks, lake music festivals and a Tchaikovsky Festival. Most important for many Estonians is the Song Festival. It’s held every fifth year and features some 30,000 singers who perform at an historic bayfront setting fabled for its acoustics and architecture. Since its music is so inextricably intertwined with liberation, the power of Estonian song has been recognized by UNESCO on its revered cultural heritage list. And the meditative music of Estonian composer Arvo Pärt — termed tintinnabuli (or “little bells”) — has made him the world’s most performed living composer for the past five years.

The Value of Hospitality

A short ferry ride from the mainland, the isle of Kihnu in the Gulf of Riga has also been UNESCO-designated for its ancient cultural traditions which include singing, dancing and handicrafts.

The citizens value hospitality here. Someone is likely to invite you to their private home for homemade potato bread and freshly-caught fried Baltic herring served with plenty of butter and jam. Since the island’s men were often out to sea, Kihnu women have established a matriarchal society that perpetuates the island’s folk and agrarian traditions — plus an annual old ladies’ motor race on motorcycles and sidecars.

Kuressaare Castle

Kuressaare Castle on the Isle of Saarema

LGBTQ Estonia

As for LGBTQ life, in 2014 Estonia became the first ex-Soviet country to legalize same-sex partnerships. LGBTQ people serve openly in the military and anti-discrimination laws have been in effect here for years.

Pride parades have been held in Tallinn since 2004. In 2017, the city hosted Baltic Pride, the annual LGBTQ event that rotates among three Baltic capitals. X-Bar has remained a favored LGBT boîte. Meanwhile, Club 69, the first gay baths in the Baltics, has been open since 2001. And both establishments are but a short walk from Tallinn’s illustrious Hotel Palace.

Walking in Tallinn

Built in 1937, Hotel Palace has a long history of hosting diplomats and ambassadors from its perch overlooking Freedom Square. Completely renovated in 2014, the Palace retains its understated Art Deco glamour with sleek rooms that feature the work of the esteemed Estonian artist Konrad Mägi. (Restaurant Konrad is named after him.) Superior rooms at the Palace offer views onto Freedom Square, Tallinn’s grandest public space. Victory Day celebrations there commemorate their war of independence.

A walking city (served by free public transit for its residents), Tallinn radiates outward from Old Town, one of Europe’s best preserved medieval walled cities. At the center is Town Hall. Its tower is topped by the weather vane nicknamed “Old Thomas,” which has been Tallinn’s mascot for nearly 600 years.

Divided between Upper Town and Lower Town, Old Town’s historic main thoroughfare is Pikk Street. At the top of it stands three merchant houses built in 1362. What was once the home of noblemen and dignitaries now houses The Three Sisters Hotel. It’s a remarkable, 23-room Relais & Châteaux property that features secret staircases and labyrinthine passageways. In its current incarnation, Three Sisters has hosted such luminaries as HRH Queen Elizabeth II. Sting, R.E.M., Lou Reed and Bryan Ferry. Three Sisters serves breakfast in a dining room with a charming ceiling fresco rediscovered beneath 14 layers of wallpaper.

Tallinn Old Town

Tallinn Old Town—Photo by Alan Silmann

Eat, Don’t Pray, Love

For a taste of Tallinn’s extraordinary culinary talent, Leib Resto & Aed is named in honor of Estonian black bread. It offers soulful, casual dining marked by organic food from local purveyors. Situated on the edge of Old Town, the restaurant features a lush dining garden with a grill that recalls the best summer barbecues.

Estonians are the world’s most non-religious people. Instead, they mostly choose a worldview that focuses on celebrating life and nature. Perhaps it is unsurprising that — in a region that has seen its fair share of religion-related conflict over the centuries — more than two million people of all backgrounds joined hands in solidarity for independence here in 1989. They formed a human chain of nearly 400 miles stretching across the three Baltic states.

Regardless of its history marked by foreign occupations, Estonia has become one of the world’s most digitally-advanced societies ,with a high level of economic freedom in a high-income economy. Equally laudable are the civil liberties and press and internet freedoms enjoyed by Estonians. Their tech-savvy society that gave us both Skype and Kazaa. In fact, Estonians have held their elections online since 2005.

A Creative City

Tallinn’s creative hub is centered in Telliskivi, a former industrial complex next to the railway station that has become a locus of hipster energy and creativity — and a magnetic draw for youthful entrepreneurs. Weekends are particularly popular in Creative City, thanks to numerous cafés, restaurants, boutiques, and flea markets.

With 30 miles of coastline and more than twenty-five percent of its area given over to parkland, Tallinn has been designated as one of the world’s top ten cities with the cleanest air. Especially alluring is Kadriorg Park, a palatial expanse of nearly 200 acres noted for a Baroque summer palace built there by Peter the Great. It’s also home to the pink presidential palace that houses Estonia’s president.

Herbs with Poached Egg Yolk

Herbs with Poached Egg Yolk—Photo by Ariann Liimal

Flanking the park’s northern edge, the restaurant Mon Repos offers up a fascinating roaring ‘20s backstory. That includes a chef from the Russian Imperial Court, a bartender from London’s Savoy Hotel, café society, flappers, gamblers, and a raid by the Tallinn police that closed the place. Reopened in 2016 by a visionary team, Mon Repos offers a menu inspired by Kadriorg’s “Golden Era.” They celebrate the villa’s illustrious culinary history in a romantic setting that affords a perfect opportunity to reflect upon the enchanting beauty of Tallinn — and the ongoing resilience of the indefatigable Estonian spirit. visitestonia.com/en

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Last modified: October 31, 2019