Columnists and Letters

Want to Know the Real You? Look on the Dance Floor

I learned things about myself I could never have known otherwise on the dance floor. I’ve been an avid clubgoer…

5 years ago

Discovering Your Identity: The Trek from Straight Boyfriend to Gay Daddy

Kevin explores the act of discovering your identity on his trek from "straight" boyfriend to gay daddy. Along the way,…

5 years ago

Did I Understand Consent as a Young Gay Man?

In light of recent high-profile allegations of sexual abuse, I can’t help but wonder if I even understood consent when…

5 years ago

What Made the Mixtape Disappear?

During the reign of Top 40 radio, Kevin mastered crafting crowd-pleasing playlists, but as tastes began to change, he found…

6 years ago

Lend An Ear: Why Editor Paul Hagen is Only Half Listening to You

The summer after kindergarten, I was admitted to the hospital. Something was wrong with my left ear, and the doctors…

6 years ago

This Is What It’s Like to Escape Your Own Dinner Party

I decided to shake up my party-throwing routine, and the result was a culinary catastrophe. Fêting Ready I love being…

6 years ago

End of Life Care: When You’re Gay Without Kids, Who Will Take Care of You?

In the course of helping their own parents face the slings and arrows of age, Wade and Gary make alternative…

6 years ago

The Greatest Love of All Is Not Easy to Achieve

With all due respect to Whitney Houston, Kevin discovers that learning to love himself involves getting past experiences that made…

6 years ago

DIARY: Hurting My Pride?

When a book event ends up overflowing with fans of his partner Gary, Wade is left wondering: How come no…

6 years ago

Editor Paul Hagen Wonders: Does the Cologne Make the Man?

The year is 1999. I’m at home in New Jersey after my freshman year of college, and having gotten a…

6 years ago